Wednesday, January 28, 2015

Should a jobless or broke guy be in a relationship at all?



The other day I overheard this conversation between two
ladies. One of ladies with the loudest voice was
replying the other lady who opined that love was all that mattered in 
any relationship,asking her if love could be used to pay for goods in the market,make
her hair or cash money in the bank? 


Well,from my little experience in love matters,I think any guy in a relationship 
with a lady,in which he can't be able to take his lady out on treats from time to time,
buy her gifts on special occasions and take care of some of her needs is only setting
himself up for needless headache and ridicule. I do understand there are
some very materialistic ladies out there who make a man's life a living
hell by trying to turn them to an atm where they go to withdraw money
from for every little request. If a guy is comfortable,as in financially okay,there
is no crime if he decides to take care of certain aspects of his
lady's well being, but it must be at his discretion and not due to her
insistence,because,after all,he isn't married to her yet and cannot
take over the role of her parents or guardian. Failure of a guy to be
financially committed to his lady would only give the opportunity to any
smart guy out there to win over his lady's love which would lead to her being
unfaithful to him.

A caveat here though,guys,no matter how much you spend on
your lady,its not a guarantee that she wont cheat or go out with other
guys cos humans can never be satisfied,least of all ladies. So a guy
should try as much as he can to keep the spark on in the relationship
to the best of his ability,and he would see his lady stick to him no
matter what,except she is the greedy and materialistic type. 

To answer the question about whether a jobless or broke guy should be in a
relationship,well,i cant give a yes or no answer, rather,I
would ask
the lady to ask herself these questions; did he lose his job before or
after he met her?  Is his being broke a momentary thing or it's been
like that for a long while? What efforts is he making to get out of
his situation? Is he the lazy type who lives off women? Answers to
these questions would determine whether to go into or remain in a
relationship with such a guy,and for the guys,do you want to go
through the needless headache that you would encounter by not having
the financial muscle to take care of the least of your lady's needs? 

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